We can choose the quality of our life (our outcome) through our responses to events.
Jack Canfield created this very helpful formula: E + R = O (Event + Response = Outcome). Highlighted from his book, The Success Principles, Jack says this:
"You can blame the event (E) for your lack of results (O), or you can instead simply change your responses (R) to the events (E) --the way things are--until you get the outcomes (O) you want." Then he puts it very succinctly by stating that "if you don't like your outcomes, change your responses."
That is really where our power is, isn't it? So often it may seem that we are not in charge of events, or at least some of them, and maybe we've seen outcomes that were not as we wanted. But, one thing that all of us have full authority over is how we choose to think, to respond or react, to consider, and to discern. So as our outcome is not to our liking, the place to focus is not on the outside, but the inside, not what is happening, but what we are thinking and feeling.
The difference between victim and victor is perception and perception is always 100% in our field of control.
Remember the great formula that makes it so simple: E + R = O.