Friday, June 28, 2019

Take Off The Training Wheels! Freedom Awaits!

"If you'd like to teach 
a kid to ride a bike, 
training wheels are a bad idea." 

-- Seth Godin 

Seth continues: "You're much better off with a small bike with no pedals. All training wheels do is confuse, distract or stall." And, since Seth Godin is a marketing author and expert, he adds, "the same is true for marketing. You don't need to go to school for four years. You need to do marketing." He also says that "the same thing is true for leadership. Find something worth doing, find others to join in."

Have you ever tried to ride a bike with training wheels? It just doesn't feel right. One of the unique things about a bike is that it has a roll axis, unlike a car with four wheels. In other words, we can lean right or left, and in fact, that ability to lean has a great deal to do with riding a bike, and training wheels stops the roll axis, and you can watch a little kid on a bike with training wheels trying to lean and they can't. It's a silly protectionist thing that a parent would put on a bike because they are afraid the child will come to harm. But it slows the process of learning to a crawl.

It would be like trying to fly a plane with it attached to a pole. A plane has, even more, freedom than a bike because instead of two axes, roll, and yaw, it has three--roll, pitch, and yaw. Left or right leaning, up or down, and right or left pointing. Training wheels on a bike limit the rider to one axis: yaw. It takes all the freedom away.

Our freedom is in our ability to decide, to do or to act. As we consider the fear of decision's ramifications, and/or the unknown aspects of doing something we may have never done before, we attach training wheels to our life. It feels weird but safer, and yet, it isn't safe at all. We can feel inside that it doesn't feel right. We can feel the resistance and restraint involved. We have imprisoned ourselves, lost our freedom.

Because we so strongly want freedom, we rebel against the self-created resistance and restraint, and with the ego's complete cooperation, we begin blaming others, external forces, and more. And yet, our freedom is always fully in our control if we will only become aware of that power. Training wheels will not help us learn to use this power, we must simply exercise it, trust it will all be okay and move.

Freedom is also our willingness and ability to fail and to learn from those failures. The label, fail or failure is made up. Truly there are only results, and we can then make adjustments if the results are not as desired. Pema Chodron wrote a short book about leaning into the unknown. The title is, Fail. Fail Again. Fail Better. 

Take off the training wheels! Freedom awaits!

Tuesday, June 25, 2019

If Content Is King. Consistency Is Queen

"You will never change your life
until you change something you do daily."

-- John C Maxwell   


In John C Maxwell's book, The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth, I was moved by the incredibly powerful and yet simple messages he shares.

John spent a good amount of time on the Law of Consistency. I absolutely loved the simple ideas he shared about how he has been able to write more than 75 books. Bringing what he said to the simplest concept, it is this: He is passionate about what he does because he loves what he does and more importantly, he knows why he does it. He also knows that what he does is something much, much larger than himself. In other words, he serves a larger purpose than making a living, writing a book, etc.

The first part of that is his motivation, but in order to actually get it done, or turn it into an accomplishment, requires discipline matched to the motivation. Discipline is a scary word to most people because it sounds an awful lot like drudgery, work, lots of effort, late nights and other such ideas. However, he says the truth is that he just does it every day.

'Every day? What does that mean?' people would ask him. His answer, 'it means, every day.' Of course, they're looking for a different answer because to them every day seems like a burden. . . surely he must mean 5 days a week, or every day for just a month or two or something. 'No,' he would say, 'every day means every day.' 'Even on Christmas?' they would add. 'Yes,' he says, 'every day.'

So, how does he have more than 75 books published? He writes every day. 'Now,' he says, 'I might only write 10 minutes today, 6 hours tomorrow, I have no set amount, but only to write every day.' It is the consistency of his actions that add up to the accumulation of the results. John asks, "what are you willing to change doing today in order to change what you will be doing tomorrow?" It's a great question to consider and answer. He adds, "in the end, hard work is really the accumulation of easy things you didn't do when you should have."

Saturday, June 22, 2019

Obstacles? Transform Them!

"Obstacles cannot crush me. 
Every obstacle yields to stern resolve.
He who is fixed to a star does not change his mind." 

-- Leonardo da Vinci

When I think of Leonardo da Vinci and all the things he designed, painted, sculpted, and accomplished, I never think of him as even considering obstacles or even needing persistence. Isn't that just the way when you're looking back hundreds of years, or even last year or last month, you don't see the actual doing, but just the results, whatever they may be.

If Leonardo had obstacles, that makes me feel so much better because my obstacles seem so puny in comparison. I've heard it said that you get 20 people in a dark room and give someone your biggest problems, a half hour later, everyone is scrambling to get their original problems back. We pump them up, but there is a lot of air in our problems.

The good news, as with Leonardo, is that a stern resolve to stay focused on what it is you really want to accomplish will eventually overcome any and all obstacles. Then, as we have done so many times in the past, we can look back and laugh at what we thought were obstacles. Or, even better, we may not even recognize any obstacles. And better than this, learn to celebrate obstacles as learning opportunities thereby transforming them.

Wednesday, June 19, 2019

Minute With Maxwell: Keep It Simple - John Maxwell Team

When things get complicated, people tend to tune out. If you are looking to capture and hold the attention of an audience, complexity is not the way to go. Great leaders aim to simplify.

Sunday, June 16, 2019

The Father’s Day Video That Will Melt Your Heart

We asked ten fathers and their children to express to the other why they felt proud. The result? An emotionally powerful Father’s Day video that may bring tears to your eyes--and that will make you want to say you need to say today. #TellThemNow

Thursday, June 13, 2019

The Road To Success

"The road to success 
is not meant to be traveled alone."

My coaching involves the ability to understand you: to think about how you think and understand your perspective. From this benchmark, I will place another perspective on top of yours – stretching and growing you to gently see a more empowering way. As a certified John Maxwell coach, I can see what you are going through now and what is up ahead. Coaching is foreseeing, paving the way, coming alongside you while helping you achieve goals and overcome limiting paradigms.

I offer two levels of coaching support:

Individual Coaching – one on one private and confidential coaching

When I am working with you one-on-one, it is my highest objective to help you reach your purpose, vision, and goals by working through John Maxwell's programs specific to your needs. Together, we will create a strategic, powerful plan for you to gain clarity through a weekly process including, interaction and accountability.

What are you doing to invest in yourself?
What are you doing to invest in others?

Group Coaching – small setting onsite or via webinar and video technology

When I am working in a group setting – although it’s not singular in nature – having the entire group’s input in thinking magnifies the richness of the discussions and results in developing solutions that are above and beyond what any individual can create. The cohesive bond that is formed empowers each person to develop the leader within and shine in a safe environment that nurtures the group as a whole. It is an experience unlike any other and follows the same premise as an academic think tank.


Bart Nollenberger

Monday, June 10, 2019

This is what makes employees happy at work | The Way We Work, a TED series

There are three billion working people on this planet, and only 40 percent of them report being happy at work. Michael C. Bush shares his insights into what makes workers unhappy -- and how companies can benefit their bottom lines by fostering satisfaction.

Friday, June 7, 2019

Act As If You Make A Difference. You DO!

"I will act as if what I do 
makes a difference." 

 -- William James 

It does.

It is a very beneficial thing to realize that you make a difference. The only thing better than this is to act as if what you do makes a difference. Realizing it is like school learning. You learn about something and you can approach an understanding of the subject, or at least a better understanding than you had before, but it isn't until you apply the knowledge that it becomes real to you. By acting as if, you put it into action.

This doesn't mean successful accomplishment is immediate, but by practicing the activity and the knowledge behind that action, success is just a matter of time.

Believe that you make a difference to other people. You do. It is virtually impossible to interact with other people and not make some kind of a difference. You will.

This leaves only one thing. What kind of difference will you make? This is a great question and here's a better one: What kind of a difference would you like to make? Intention is important. Think of the action as the car and the intention as the fuel that feeds it.

One last point. There are a lot of things that you do. If you will act as if whatever you do makes a difference, you will find that it does. Apply the question of what kind of a difference would you like to make to each.

Tuesday, June 4, 2019

If You Can. . . Bruce Lee Favorite

Bruce Lee was an avid fan of the spoken word. One of his favorite poems was "IF" by Rudyard Kipling. He had it put on a plaque, hanging it in his home as a constant reference and source of inspiration. Shannon Lee pulled the poem from the Bruce Lee archives and reads it here.


If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too:
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;

If you can dream---and not make dreams your master;
If you can think---and not make thoughts your aim,
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same:.
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build'em up with worn-out tools;

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings,
And never breathe a word about your loss:
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings---nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much:
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And---which is more---you'll be a Man, my son!

--Rudyard Kipling

Saturday, June 1, 2019

Facilitate Change by Empowering Others

As a student of success, you have a lot of wisdom to offer the people in your life. You'll be amazed at the impact you can make and the lives you can change by teaching them the success principles they need to create the life of their dreams. In today's video, I'll explain how you can actually help the people you love by empowering them to take control of their lives, overcome their limiting beliefs, and fulfill their destiny.